Four Shades of Limiting Beliefs

“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs…”

-Louise L. Haywell

  Limiting beliefs are what you hold to be true about who you are that limit the development of your physical, emotional, financial, intellectual and spiritual potential. The ongoing relationship between limiting beliefs and low self-esteem is epic. Low self-esteem is like a parasite that feeds off the energy you supply to your limiting beliefs.  One thrives because of the other. How does this happen?  It happens over time.  For instance, telling a child they ask too many questions might lead the child to believe asking questions is a bad thing; when a child is yelled at all the time the child might believe they are not worthy of kindness. You get the picture. Limiting beliefs can provide an unrealistic sense of safety…that keeps you behind the picket fence even though what you’d love to do is swim in the ocean.  Let me introduce you to what I call the four shades of limiting beliefs.

Education   When forming our perceptions of the world, we cannot depend solely on life experiences.  There is only so much we can get into to draw our conclusions.  How we view the world in general comes from listening to our parents and teachers.  Listening and also what we read is also important because it helps us to understand how to behave in the world.  Although education tells you what is right and wrong, good and bad and helps you survive and grow it also can limit the things you experience because you may never try things.  In turn you might miss out on useful experiences and knowledge.

Jacked-up logic   When making decisions we often make them in error, based on what someone else’s outcome was.  We can be quick to write something off that we believe will be a failure for us simply because it was a failure for someone else. Let’s not forgot about the people who make decisions based on a hunch.  These people will gather a little bit of data and then generalize the results as fact.  Decisions like these are usually based on our subconscious hopes and fears.  That is jacked-up!  When you don’t challenge the cause and effect as a reasonable ingredient your decision is flawed.

Excuses   One reason we use jacked-up logic and form limiting beliefs is to make excuses for our perceived failures.  When we do something and it does not work it’s never our fault.  We have to explain away our failure by forming and using beliefs which justify our actions and leave us blameless. But in doing so, we do not learn and continue to paint a portrait of ourselves outlined by limiting beliefs that determine what we think and do in the future.

Fear   Limiting beliefs are often fear-driven. Locking the belief in place is the fear that if you go against the beliefs, certain needs will be harmed. Truthfully we all to some degree have a strong social component factored into the decisions we make.  The smallest chance of criticism, ridicule or rejection by others is more than enough to inhibit us in a powerful way. Limiting beliefs remind us constantly that we might be harmed in some way by others.  That fear serves as the catalyst that results in avoidance and/or appeasement.

Which shade of limiting beliefs are you using to create your self-portrait?

When our beliefs become those which constrain us in some way they are deemed limiting. Limiting beliefs can seriously hold us back in life and most of the time such beliefs are invisible to us. They control some of our thoughts and behaviors behind the scenes, just enough to reduce our results in some area of life.  It doesn’t have to be this way.  How can you change or rid yourself of these limiting beliefs?   Stay tuned! Next week I will show you how to identify your limiting beliefs. After all, you can not change what you don’t acknowledge.

Bev Jones-Durr is The Legacy Builder! She is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measurable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFacebook and YouTube

Asking For Help: Weakness or Strength?

Today as I sat in my prayer room in the presence of God, He reminded me that asking for help is not a weakness but a necessity. He led me to this scripture in Isaiah 30:18-19 which reads “So the LORD must wait for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the LORD is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for his help. O people of Zion, who live in Jerusalem, you will weep no more. He will be gracious if you ask for help. He will surely respond to the sound of your cries.”

We are encouraged to ask for help but what stops us? Pride is one of those elements when left unchecked will destroy you. Proverbs 16-18 tells us that “Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before stumbling.” When pride lives in our hearts, we are more concerned with other people’s perceptions of us than we are the reality of our own hearts. We fiercely battle the inferiorities that have an impact on how others see us, and make peace with the ones that no one sees. We strive to be seen as having great success in the areas that have high visibility, but little concern for the disciplines that happen in private that aren’t visible to outsiders.

I had to examine my reason for not asking for help.  I’m not saying that God and I don’t communicate, because we do. However, this is the discipline I must work on…I think I have to do it all.  Once God has guided me and provided his counsel…I grab the gauntlet and head out into battle.   Some people might say that’s a proper response.  Let me share with you how I know that is not the response intended. I used to think it was because I didn’t want to feel like a burden, be turned down, or be seen as wanting to control everything. I have to admit this inner reflection was hard for me. Truthfully, I didn’t ask for help because I felt that this was My purpose, My dream, My divine assignment and I didn’t want anyone messing it up. But here is why that doesn’t work. God intended for me to reach out to others who’d also been given their divine assignment and allow them to walk in their purpose.  I made a judgement that my divine assignment had priority and nothing else was more important. I was so off the mark and out of alignment with God that my body ached. Executing my divine assignment became increasingly more difficult. If you pay attention to your body, your surroundings and everything that happens in your life you will be able to feel yourself get off track too. So, I’ll just say it! I am off track!

I have a divine assignment and when my assignment isn’t working out or becomes difficult to complete…I have no choice but to go back to the one who assigned it and ask for help. If I don’t do this, I won’t get far in life trying to live off of our own strength.  God has shown me how impossible that would be.  When God gives you your assignment, He wants you to ask for help. It’s never meant for us to do God’s will by ourselves. God is the one who guides us in the right path. That is the lesson I finally learned. So, how am I going to get back on track? Glad you asked. Contrary to what I believed before my divine assignment needs help from several people that God has strategically placed in my realm that are ready to assist me.  This is a mutually supported association in which we all help each other to complete our divine assignments. My divine assignment led me to establish Every Child Has a Story, a non-profit organization whose mission and vision is too big for one person. Clearly I knew this but pride said, “Girl, you got this!” No I didn’t…pride lied to me and the worst part is… I listened. Don’t let pride cause the destruction of your divine assignment. Trust in God. Sometimes God helps us by doing things Himself and sometimes God helps us through other people. We must never be afraid to get wise counsel and help with big decisions from others. Asking for help means you are strong and wise. Pride is a sin that keeps from asking for help even when they desperately need it.

I am asking for help. I need your help in supporting Every Child Has a Story and its mission to build self-esteem one child at a time.  Does your divine assignment present an opportunity to collaborate with us? Think over it and if your answer is yes, please email me so we can connect. That email address is: director@everychildhasastory.org

Remember, this is a mutually supported association in which we all help each other to complete our divine assignments. How can I help you? I stand ready to assist you in completing your divine assignment.

Beverly Jones-Durr is founder of Every Child Has a Story. Every Child Has a Story is a registered 501(c)(3) non – profit organization that was created on the need for empowering today’s youth by becoming the bridge in the proverbial village it takes to raise a child, connecting families in a reciprocal learning experience. Through our programs, Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club, “The Only Public Speaking Club for Kids and Teens in AL,” and “The Writer’s Vibe, “Empowering the Voices of Today’s Youth through Words,” we build and enhance stellar self-confidence and self-esteem in families across communities, and the Jr. CEO Academy where youth develop business entreprenurial skills to build a successful business.  If you would like to help Every Child Has a Story provide continued empowerment, training, workshops, and educational support to children, teens and young adults, please consider volunteering or donate.   Your support enables us to continue our mission to enhance and develop the self-esteem, self-confidence and cultivate leadership skills in oral and written communication for children, teens and young adults.   Please click here to complete your donation through our secure and easy online donation process. Subscribe to our newsletter so you can receive updates on our successes and development of new programs. I promise we will not spam you. You can also follow Beverly on TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

A Peek into My Personal Toolbox

When I was a little girl growing up in Birmingham Alabama, I prayed all the time. It wasn’t because I was religious because at such a young age I didn’t know what that meant. I prayed everyday because Jesus was my friend.  That’s what grownups told me and I heard it in church. I figured since we were friends Jesus would be happy to hear from me.

I also found the Bible to be my favorite book. Of course the vivid pictures were my favorite portions but as I grew older I found joy in reading the words. I used to read the scriptures out loud and I especially enjoyed personalizing them. It made me feel as though Jesus were speaking directly to me.   This might sound a little odd to you, but below is a sample of one of my favorite personalized scriptures.  Read it and see if you feel the power of those words.

Psalm 91 Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.[a] I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” Surely He will save Me from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover ME with his feathers, and under his wings I will find refuge; his faithfulness will be MY shield and rampart. I will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday. A thousand may fall at MY side, ten thousand at MY right hand, but it will not come near ME. I will only observe with MY eyes and see the punishment of the wicked. If I say, “The Lord is my refuge,” and I make the Most High MY dwelling, 10 no harm will overtake ME no disaster will come near MY tent. 11 For he will command his angels concerning ME to guard ME in all MY ways; 12 they will lift ME up in their hands, so that I will not strike MY foot against a stone. 13 I will tread on the lion and the cobra; I will trample the great lion and the serpent. 14 “Because she[b] loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue her; I will protect her, for she acknowledges my name. 15 SHE will call on me, and I will answer her; I will be with her in trouble,  I will deliver her and honor her. 16 With long life I will satisfy her and show her my salvation.”

Did you feel it? Personalizing scriptures helped me to build my relationship with Jesus. This relationship has gotten me through so many ups and downs.  Knowing that no matter what life throws at me I have only to quiet my mind, relax my breathing and call on Jesus…and He is always there.   You don’t have to be a Christian or even believe what I believe about any aspect of my life. That’s the beauty of life. You get to believe whatever helps you survive the life’s ups and downs.   The point is…find something because life could care less what you choose to arm yourself with. Life just throws situations and stuff at you every single day.   It’s up to you to decide what tools you place in your personal toolbox.  I have given you a peek into mine.  The balls in your court.  What are you going to use to prepare for life’s stuff?

Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

Helping Your Child to Become a Successful Leader

One of the most important lessons a child can learn as they grow is how to become a successful leader. In the age we live in, it sometimes seems as though everyone wants the perks of being a leader, but few want to invest the time and energy that it takes to become one. If you can instill the qualities of being a true successful leader into your child, your child will be a step ahead of the rest as they grow.   Leaders are incredibly important in our society. Too many people simply follow everyone else and don’t cultivate their own beliefs and opinions. Those who will become the true leaders of society will be those who dared to step out on their own and make choices based on their values – rather than just following along the wide path that so many blindly follow. Below are some of the qualities of a successful leader that will help your child to become the best one they can be.

Learning to Follow.   Being a leader is a position that stands out to many individuals simply because they don’t like to take orders, and they may feel that being the one giving orders will solve this problem. However, being a successful leader also requires knowing how to follow the lead of others. If you want others to follow you as you wish, putting yourself under the wisdom and direction of another person will help you to stay humble and will help you remember the needs of those under you.

Letting Others Shine.   Sometimes, being in charge makes us forget that there is a time and a place for everyone to shine. Remind your child that as a leader, they should actively seek out opportunities to let others have their moment in the spotlight. A great leader makes others feel good about themselves, and giving them these opportunities will ensure that this happens often.

Working with Others.   Teaching your child to work well with others will enhance their ability to lead. Everyone loves a leader who is a team player. By building the skill of team co-operation in your child, he or she will be more prepared to become a leader who is well liked, and known for their good qualities.

Being Open to Constructive Criticism.   As a leader, your child will sometimes find themselves open to criticism from all angles. Teach them to see the good in this. When someone appears to be critical of your child’s leadership, train them to try and take at least one thing from it that they can learn. Teach them the importance of sometimes overlooking the tone that the critical remark or advice is said in. Teach them to stand up for themselves when attacked, but to learn whenever possible.

Being a leader is not the glamorous life it sometimes appears. Teach your child the true meaning of being a leader, and how the path to gaining those qualities takes strength and humility. Remind them of the importance of leaders in our society, and the need to keep their motives in check. The world will benefit from as many great leaders as are available.

Take a moment to evaluate your child.    Does your child lack self-esteem or confidence? Is your child shy or has difficulty speaking up in class?  There are many ways to build self-esteem and self-confidence.  Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club is a great place to start. Through empowerment and encouragement, children ages 7 and up learn the process of communicating their own ideas, dreams and thoughts in a way that is clearly understood by the listener.  They develop leadership skills that will enable them to do better in school and feel confident about themselves and their abilities.   Want to learn more about Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club and how it can help rocket your child’s self-esteem and self-confidence as well as build leadership skills?  Click HERE!

Beverly Jones-Durr is an Author, Dynamic Speaker, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is Founder and Executive Director at Every Child Has a Story    a 501c3 non-profit organization. Our programs,  The Writer’s Vibe, Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club, and Jr CEO Academy – enhance self-esteem and confidence in children age 7 and up.  We have created programs that empower young people to command their voice, feelings, ideals, energy and intellect and use all of that to boost their communication skills. Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club is a safe place for members to explore creativity and enhance their communication skills. What’s the back door benefits? We’re building Self Esteem and Self Confidence one child at a time creating tomorrow’s leaders, TODAY!  The Writer’s Vibe empowers kids to use words to write stories only they can write and become stellar wordsmiths whose talents will no doubt someday change the world.  Jr CDEO Academy develops business entreprenurial skills in young people enabling them to build successful business today. Check us out and prepare to be amazed!  You can also follow Beverly 0n Twitter, FaceBook and Pinterest

In Search of Real Beauty

Let’s be honest.  Like most women, I love a good shopping opportunity.  One of my favorite areas is the beauty aisle.  I am amazed at all the products that fill the shelves all claiming to do one thing or another.  That’s great…for your outside reflection.  But what about inside…the deep place no one visibly sees but can feel just by being in your presence?  How beautiful are you on the inside?  Now that’s a question I haven’t heard many people ask.  Inside beauty is illuminated through your actions, words spoken, feelings displayed.  We all know about putting that facade on in the presence of the opposite sex, trying to portray the beauty that we want others to see.

But is it also skin deep? Is it real or just magic mirrors meant to disguise some internal ugliness?  Here’s something I have learned over time.  Ugly will show its face eventually.  Its voice speaks volumes above the outward beauty you display because slowly over time it changes what people actually see when they look at you.  Are you kind to others?  Perhaps you are egocentric, unfair, biased and just down right mean.

I can understand why you might want to keep that undercover…but think of the work it takes to maintain you cover.  If people are eventually going to find out who you really are, doesn’t it make sense to work on those deficits and project an authentic you?

A pretty face is wonderful, but it can’t compete with a beautiful heart. None of us are perfect…I know you’ve heard that a gazillion times.  That’s because it is TRUE!  Just work on being the best you can and your beauty will fill a room and turn heads for all the right reasons.  Start first believing in yourself.  Look deeper in that mirror.  Listen to your soul.  It will tell you where you need to improve. But more importantly, it will tell you where your beauty lives….deep inside the essence of you!

Here’s a small challenge for the month.  Compliment someone.  Not on the physical but on their attributes that makes their beauty obvious.  I promise you it will make their day and empower you.  It’s all about support.  We can do this….if we work together.

Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

Treating Gratitude Like A Habit

The world will return to you what you send out. If you are selfish or mean to others, you will be paid back with unwanted circumstances. It’s why people constantly use the phrase, “what goes around, comes around.”   When you project gratitude, life will pay you back in a positive manner. You will appreciate what you have, and it will set the stage for prosperity and success to give you even more.

But, we live in a highly negative world. This makes it easy to revert to having negative thoughts. You may believe those negative thoughts are your own, so life won’t be able to find out you’ve been thinking them. However, thoughts produce energy, so there is no hiding. Energy, whether it is positive or negative, will be projected.   You need to make gratitude become a natural part of your life, something that you think without effort. The best way to do that is to make it a habit. You will need to consciously repel the thoughts of people who introduce negativity into your life. This includes news, social media, and interacting in social settings.

Unfortunately, you cannot avoid altogether people who are negative. You can try to turn them around to being grateful, but you need to start with yourself. You’ll make little progress if you are constantly negative.   Try to develop a filter within yourself that keeps you from reacting when people say or do something negative. The easy way out is not to join the negative club but rather to put some distance as much as possible between you. Developing a filter will deflect what has been said.  This filter will also enable you to see clearer and to understand that negativity is an addiction.

Once it grabs hold of you, it is not easy to resist. This requires you to learn to let things go. Let go of the things you can’t control. We know we can’t control people, let alone what they say and do. But we can learn to control how we react and respond to it all.   When you condition yourself to be grateful constantly, this becomes the needed filter to keep negativity at bay. But, it can be fleeting without consistent practice and reinforcement. Start by making a list of everything you are grateful for. Then, each day, state out loud the items on that list. Feel free to add to the list.

The reinforcement of gratefulness will make it a part of your personality over time. People will appreciate it, even if subtly. It will make them drawn to you, and they may not know exactly the reasons why. But, you can be sure that it has much to do with your newfound clear vision and your grateful habit. Learn to let gratitude pilot your walk on life’s journey. You have nothing to lose…except negativity.  Trust me…you won’t miss it.

Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

Living Your Life On Purpose – Part 2

Manage Your Expectations It takes time to develop worthwhile goals. Too often, people’s goals center around material things and these sorts of goals never last. Or, if they do last, and we achieve them, we move on to the next desired shiny object at warp speed. We’re wishy-washy creatures; our preferences change with the wind. Today, you might want to be a teacher. Tomorrow, your dream is to be a race car driver. The week after, your goal is to be the world’s greatest singer ever! And around and around we go — until we find our reason for existing, our purpose. We are compelled to pursue different goals on an endless quest to find our purpose. That’s the reason we bounce from one goal to the next. Purpose and passion will always be in the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

We may convince ourselves that our goals will satisfy us, but they won’t. The only thing that will make you complete is having a purpose. The search to figure out what exactly your purpose is takes time. So don’t rush it…be flexible. Once you anticipate the direction your life is heading, then it’s time to figure out your goals. You need to start somewhere. We’d all like to start at the finish line, but that would defeat the purpose. Your first goal(s) should be stepping stones on your way to fulfilling your purpose. They should allow you to figure out whether the path you’re on is right for you. You’ll face difficulties, and you’ll certainly struggle. But overcoming these hurdles will give you the confidence you need to continue.

Truth is, if you’re not struggling then you’re still working inside your comfort zone…which means you are not moving forward. If you don’t move forward, you can’t become the person you were meant to be. Remember that mountain we talked about earlier? It’s real! People will try to tear you down. They won’t support you. They may even laugh at you. They’ll judge you, talk behind your back and smile as they watch you struggle. They’ll tell you that they told you so each and every time you fail. Oh yeah! You’re going to fail. There’s always an opportunity to succeed in failure.

But you need to be stubborn, focused and relentless. You need to ignore these people. You need to ignore their condescending looks. Ignore their mean words. Ignore their opinions, because everyone has an opinion about how everyone else should be living his or her own life. It’s your life! As times change, be prepared to adjust or change your methods. You need to be flexible. You need to be ready to catch those opportunities. Sometimes your methods no longer work. Sometimes there’s a more efficient way of achieving your goals. I know, you’re tired of failing. You’re tired of not reaching the destination you’ve had in mind all this time. Well, you’re not alone. Everyone hits this wall sooner or later, perhaps more than once. Sometimes life simply throws hardship our way. The time might come when you start to consider letting go of your dreams and living an “easy” life. Don’t do it! An easy life is not what you want. You think you do, but that’s just because you’re tired of struggling.

The people who figure out a new route are the ones who fulfill their dreams. If you’re not flexible about your methods, you’re going to give up. You’re going to quit. And there’s really nothing worse than giving up and living to regret it.

Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

Living Your Life “On Purpose”- Part One

January is National “Be On Purpose” month.  How fitting is that? It’s a New Year and the climate is perfect for reflections and starting fresh. As we look back over the past year, we are reflecting on lessons learned, successes accomplished and where we fell short. This reflection however, should be a quick and short one. Why? Because dwelling in the past without direction or purpose is simply a set up for failure to launch.  Are you ready to live on purpose? I know you said yes! Well, in this two-part series on living your life “On Purpose”, there are two things we need to address first before you gear up for this bright shiny New Year.

Get Focused What is your WHY? If you aren’t sure what that is…pause and let’s talk about it. By definition, “why” is that driving force that keeps you awake at night when you want to sleep. It whispers to your mind without cease urging you to keep it moving. It’s the reason you endure struggle after struggle seeking your source of hunger. No, I’m not talking about physical hunger…more like hunger of the soul. Take a minute to identify your “Why.”   Become AWARE of your hunger (what feeling are you seeking?) FREEDOM is my source of hunger. Perhaps your source is too. I want the freedom to live my best life, support my dream lifestyle and leave a legacy for my family and others. Now this one is “BIG!” You must Get Real about what it will take to pull it off. Visualize what success looks like, feels like, and sounds like. Embrace that. Take it all in. This will fuel your why and keep your momentum moving forward. It is important to stop right here and that you will need to become incredibly kind to yourself on this journey. You must be flexible and willing to adapt when your path comes to a roadblock and you find yourself standing in front of a “mountain.” Yes! There will be mountains.

Now … let’s talk about that mountain standing in your way. Mountains don’t have to be huge piles of gravel and dirt.  Mountains can be people too. People will try to change your mind and focus. If you have a BIG dream and your goals are worth achieving, people will get jealous and call you unrealistic, hopefully blind and bound for failure. It’s just life. That’s why you need to be stubborn. And, oddly enough, the most important part of standing your ground is this:

You need to be flexible about how you’ll go about achieving your goals.

If you can be stubborn with your goals and flexible with your methods, you can take on any mountain. Do you want to have a purposeful life, or do you want to live an empty and predictable existence? Living on purpose means you have to say “yes” to the first question. I know you said, YES!  So, this is what you need to do. You are going need to have goals. A life without purpose or direction isn’t much of a life at all. The only thing in this world that’s more important than having goals is finding the courage and determination to pursue them. You should always have goals to pursue, but you shouldn’t be afraid to change them if you think that’s what’s needed. It makes sense that our purpose changes with our maturity. The more we learn about the world around us — and the world inside us, for that matter — the more our beliefs change.

That’s enough for now. I’ve given you some things to think about. There’s still one more thing I want to discuss with you next week…stay tuned.

Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out,  “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube

The New Year is Here: Need a Little Help?

[or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”394″ caption=”Are You Wearing a Mask?” image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] There’s something about the holidays and the end of the year that moves us into reflection… Reflection on our lives, relationships and career choices.  Now that the tinsel is ready to come down, the twinkle of holiday lights are fading…what are you reflecting on?  Have you gotten  used to the mask(s) you wear that tricks others into thinking you’re okay?  Are you really okay? Are you sick and tired of being stuck? Has fear stolen your clarity?  Tired of wearing that mask?  Are you ready to follow your instincts and live your best life?  Don’t you deserve it?   If you are ready to work through the fear and learn to live your best life…Keep Reading! [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”2366″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] As a Certified Life and Business Strategist, I can help you!  Together we can: –  Get rid of the Confusion. – Focus your Energy on Discovering your Purpose. – Communicate in clarity, confidence and effectiveness. – Develop clear goals that will help you create the life you want. – Identify and utilize your situations to embrace life lessons. – Learn to manage your stress in efficient and effective ways. – Discover those default beliefs that are sabotaging your success. [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”751″ caption=”I will provide the accountability needed to help you to reach your goals!” image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Are you ready to find Answers to these questions? Who am I and what do I want? What is important to me? What are my challenges? What gets in my way? Where do I want to go? How would I feel if my life were exactly the way I wanted it to be? What am I passionate about? [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”753″ caption=”Are YOU ready to Get Started? ” image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Here’s your First Step!  Book your Free 15 minute Discovery Session with me TODAY!  You have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain! Schedule Here  [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”2347″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”33px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Beverly Jones-Durr is an Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Get instant access to “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You Want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift.  You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”20px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”large” image_source=”media_library” image=”1639″ image_align=”center”][/or_column][/or_row]

Holiday Blues? Ain’t nobody got time for that!

[or_row full_width=”stretch_row” video_bg_url=”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOWFVKb2JqM” parallax_speed=”1″ parallax_background_size=”yes”][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”large” image_source=”media_library” image=”546″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”40px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Okay, let’s be honest for a few minutes. The holidays can bring more than laughter and cheer. The expectations can be so high! Hallmark and Lifetime are both competing for your time while we deck the halls with bright lights and creativity. Let’s face it…if you happen to be an ordinary person all the dazzle and hysterical shopping deals can really wear you out! Let’s not forget those Christmas “got to have” lists that seem to get bigger every year. How’s anyone suppose to keep up? Here’s a clue…we don’t have to keep up! [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”large” image_source=”media_library” image=”2359″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] The best way to survive the materialistic holiday “foo-pha” is to remember what Christmas is all about. It is not about an 85 inch television, Xbox, PlayStations or those blue light specials of 75% off an already ridiculous price! You hold the master key to enjoying this blissful time of year. Okay, I am not Scrooge. I love giving gifts to my family and friends. I also enjoy receiving them. But the greatest gift we have ever received was Jesus. He is the reason for Christmas. His love for us embraces us every single moment of every single day…not just on Christmas Day. If you pause for just a moment…ignoring the hustle and bustle of the holiday season…you will feel that love. Open your heart and share that love with the world…we all need more of that. [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”large” image_source=”media_library” image=”2360″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”41px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Don’t let the blues take hold of you this Christmas. We have so much to be grateful and thankful for. Spend time with family and friends. If that isn’t possible, open your heart to those less fortunate. They really could use our help. Share an old coat, clothing, food, or even your time with someone who has a lot less than you. If you take the time to give to others the blues will stay away. Like Jesus did, put others needs before your own and have faith that God will supply all of yours. Holiday Blues? Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That! [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”45px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”medium” image_source=”media_library” image=”2347″ image_align=”center”][or_spacing height=”20px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_column_text] Published Author, Dynamic Speaker, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates courses that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Check out “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life. You can also follow Beverly 0n TwitterFaceBook and YouTube [/or_column_text][or_spacing height=”20px”][/or_column][/or_row][or_row][or_column width=”12/12″][or_single_image image_size=”large” image_source=”media_library” image=”1639″ image_align=”center”][/or_column][/or_row]