Manage Your Expectations It takes time to develop worthwhile goals. Too often, people’s goals center around material things and these sorts of goals never last. Or, if they do last, and we achieve them, we move on to the next desired shiny object at warp speed. We’re wishy-washy creatures; our preferences change with the wind. Today, you might want to be a teacher. Tomorrow, your dream is to be a race car driver. The week after, your goal is to be the world’s greatest singer ever! And around and around we go — until we find our reason for existing, our purpose. We are compelled to pursue different goals on an endless quest to find our purpose. That’s the reason we bounce from one goal to the next. Purpose and passion will always be in the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
We may convince ourselves that our goals will satisfy us, but they won’t. The only thing that will make you complete is having a purpose. The search to figure out what exactly your purpose is takes time. So don’t rush it…be flexible. Once you anticipate the direction your life is heading, then it’s time to figure out your goals. You need to start somewhere. We’d all like to start at the finish line, but that would defeat the purpose. Your first goal(s) should be stepping stones on your way to fulfilling your purpose. They should allow you to figure out whether the path you’re on is right for you. You’ll face difficulties, and you’ll certainly struggle. But overcoming these hurdles will give you the confidence you need to continue.
Truth is, if you’re not struggling then you’re still working inside your comfort zone…which means you are not moving forward. If you don’t move forward, you can’t become the person you were meant to be. Remember that mountain we talked about earlier? It’s real! People will try to tear you down. They won’t support you. They may even laugh at you. They’ll judge you, talk behind your back and smile as they watch you struggle. They’ll tell you that they told you so each and every time you fail. Oh yeah! You’re going to fail. There’s always an opportunity to succeed in failure.
But you need to be stubborn, focused and relentless. You need to ignore these people. You need to ignore their condescending looks. Ignore their mean words. Ignore their opinions, because everyone has an opinion about how everyone else should be living his or her own life. It’s your life! As times change, be prepared to adjust or change your methods. You need to be flexible. You need to be ready to catch those opportunities. Sometimes your methods no longer work. Sometimes there’s a more efficient way of achieving your goals. I know, you’re tired of failing. You’re tired of not reaching the destination you’ve had in mind all this time. Well, you’re not alone. Everyone hits this wall sooner or later, perhaps more than once. Sometimes life simply throws hardship our way. The time might come when you start to consider letting go of your dreams and living an “easy” life. Don’t do it! An easy life is not what you want. You think you do, but that’s just because you’re tired of struggling.
The people who figure out a new route are the ones who fulfill their dreams. If you’re not flexible about your methods, you’re going to give up. You’re going to quit. And there’s really nothing worse than giving up and living to regret it.
Beverly Jones-Durr is a published Author, Certified Life and Business Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done. She creates programs that help you to develop your authentic self, build a positive and powerful mindset and create real time action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Don’t forget to check out, “Four Road Blocks Keeping You from Getting What You want”, a four part video series that puts you on course to mastering all areas of your life as a gift. You can also follow Beverly 0n Twitter, FaceBook and YouTube