Model Appropriate Behavior for Your Children

BevjDurrEvery Child Has a Story, Life Coach Services0 Comments

  When it comes to children, you are their role model. Parents are their first teachers. It is important to let them know how to deal with various situations as they age. Appropriate responses lead to positive outcomes. Never is this more important than dealing with children. When you model appropriate behavior, it will make things easier on you and on your children.  

  Practice what you preach.   To help children and family members professionals, who specialize in behavioral can offer effective methods to help parents problem-solve, decrease negativity, manage anger, and increase social skills. There are also family sessions to discuss how the issues affect each household member.   In addition, parents can make things better by modeling the behaviors they want their children to emulate. Children sometimes have a problem dealing with their emotions. Looking at their parents examples can assist them in making the best choices.   Practice Handling Adult Conflicts   During the day, you have many opportunities to practice conflict resolution with the adults around you. If your children hear you yelling at the customer service person when you have an issue, your children won’t think twice about yelling at you and others. Instead of becoming loud or aggressive, learn to communicate with others calmly and quietly. Even if your children aren't anywhere around, the chances are high that someone's children are within hearing distance.  

  Wait Patiently and Quietly   Have you waited in line for a long time because of a slow checkout person? Don’t mutter about them under your breath and then smile at them when you get to the head of the line. Resist giving people dirty looks as well. Waiting is a part of life.   Practice waiting patiently and quietly. You feel better in the end and you set the standard for your children when you model the behavior you expect to see in them. The earlier your children learn and master this skill, the better off they will be. Let's face it. To be perfectly honest, it also means that you will be embarrassed less often by your children blurting out something they obviously heard you say.  

  Agree to Disagree   Kids watch you interact with others. When you have a disagreement, don’t yell, stoop to name-calling, or bring up the past. Deal with the situation at hand. Focus on the current issue only and redirect the focus back to the present as needed. Ideally, when people disagree, a compromise is made and each person gives a little.   There are times when a compromise just isn't possible under the circumstances. In this case, it's best to set a boundary, agreeing to disagree. This allows you to accept that the other person has a different point of view without agreeing with it.  

Parents want the best for their children.   What could you give your child that would be more valuable than a strong sense of themselves and their value in this world? When we feel good about ourselves, and who we truly are in our life, anything else that comes into it is simply icing on the cake.   Happy children tend to lead happy and fulfilling lives. Why? Because they have a positive self-esteem and a rock solid sense of confidence in whom they are. They are our future, we, as grown-ups, are their guides. If you are looking for ways to build positive self-esteem in your child, guide and nurture their confidence or instill in them a strong sense of value… Speech Crafters Club is here to help.   Speech Crafters Club is the only public speaking club for kids and teens in Alabama. Your child will learn to:

  • Effectively communicate verbally (Employers and colleges recruiters are always looking for skillful communicators)

 

  • Voice their ideas

 

  • Push through fear of speaking

 

  • Become a better listener

 

  • Improve school performance

 

  • Build self-esteem and confidence

The purpose of our Speech Crafters Club is not to create public speakers, but to create empowered members who can voice their opinions in their communities and beyond. Click here to learn more about Speech Crafters Club and become part of a community of parents guiding their children into confident and poised leaders of the future.    

  Beverly Jones-Durr is an Author, Dynamic Speaker, Certified Life Mastery Strategist and Educational Facilitator. She is founder of Every Child Has a Story which is home to The Writer’s Vibe and  Speech Crafters Club - The Only Public Speaking Club for Kids and Teens in Alabama!” Beverly empowers young people to command their voice, feelings, ideals, energy and intellect and use all of that to boost their communication skills. Speech Crafters Club is a safe place for members age 8 and up to explore creativity and enhance their communication skills. What's the back door benefits? We're building and enhancing Self Esteem and Self Confidence one child at a time! The Writer’s Vibe empowers kids to use words to write stories only they can write and become stellar wordsmiths whose talents will no doubt someday change the world. The Writers Vibe program launches in 2017. Check us out and prepare to be amazed!  You can also follow Beverly 0n Twitter, FaceBook and Pinterest