Asking For Help: Weakness or Strength?

Today as I sat in my prayer room in the presence of God, He reminded me that asking for help is not a weakness but a necessity. He led me to this scripture in Isaiah 30:18-19 which reads “So the LORD must wait for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the LORD is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for his help. O people of Zion, who live in Jerusalem, you will weep no more. He will be gracious if you ask for help. He will surely respond to the sound of your cries.”

We are encouraged to ask for help but what stops us? Pride is one of those elements when left unchecked will destroy you. Proverbs 16-18 tells us that “Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before stumbling.” When pride lives in our hearts, we are more concerned with other people’s perceptions of us than we are the reality of our own hearts. We fiercely battle the inferiorities that have an impact on how others see us, and make peace with the ones that no one sees. We strive to be seen as having great success in the areas that have high visibility, but little concern for the disciplines that happen in private that aren’t visible to outsiders.

I had to examine my reason for not asking for help.  I’m not saying that God and I don’t communicate, because we do. However, this is the discipline I must work on…I think I have to do it all.  Once God has guided me and provided his counsel…I grab the gauntlet and head out into battle.   Some people might say that’s a proper response.  Let me share with you how I know that is not the response intended. I used to think it was because I didn’t want to feel like a burden, be turned down, or be seen as wanting to control everything. I have to admit this inner reflection was hard for me. Truthfully, I didn’t ask for help because I felt that this was My purpose, My dream, My divine assignment and I didn’t want anyone messing it up. But here is why that doesn’t work. God intended for me to reach out to others who’d also been given their divine assignment and allow them to walk in their purpose.  I made a judgement that my divine assignment had priority and nothing else was more important. I was so off the mark and out of alignment with God that my body ached. Executing my divine assignment became increasingly more difficult. If you pay attention to your body, your surroundings and everything that happens in your life you will be able to feel yourself get off track too. So, I’ll just say it! I am off track!

I have a divine assignment and when my assignment isn’t working out or becomes difficult to complete…I have no choice but to go back to the one who assigned it and ask for help. If I don’t do this, I won’t get far in life trying to live off of our own strength.  God has shown me how impossible that would be.  When God gives you your assignment, He wants you to ask for help. It’s never meant for us to do God’s will by ourselves. God is the one who guides us in the right path. That is the lesson I finally learned. So, how am I going to get back on track? Glad you asked. Contrary to what I believed before my divine assignment needs help from several people that God has strategically placed in my realm that are ready to assist me.  This is a mutually supported association in which we all help each other to complete our divine assignments. My divine assignment led me to establish Every Child Has a Story, a non-profit organization whose mission and vision is too big for one person. Clearly I knew this but pride said, “Girl, you got this!” No I didn’t…pride lied to me and the worst part is… I listened. Don’t let pride cause the destruction of your divine assignment. Trust in God. Sometimes God helps us by doing things Himself and sometimes God helps us through other people. We must never be afraid to get wise counsel and help with big decisions from others. Asking for help means you are strong and wise. Pride is a sin that keeps from asking for help even when they desperately need it.

I am asking for help. I need your help in supporting Every Child Has a Story and its mission to build self-esteem one child at a time.  Does your divine assignment present an opportunity to collaborate with us? Think over it and if your answer is yes, please email me so we can connect. That email address is:

Remember, this is a mutually supported association in which we all help each other to complete our divine assignments. How can I help you? I stand ready to assist you in completing your divine assignment.

Beverly Jones-Durr is founder of Every Child Has a Story. Every Child Has a Story is a registered 501(c)(3) non – profit organization that was created on the need for empowering today’s youth by becoming the bridge in the proverbial village it takes to raise a child, connecting families in a reciprocal learning experience. Through our programs, Speech Crafters Speech and Debate Club, “The Only Public Speaking Club for Kids and Teens in AL,” and “The Writer’s Vibe, “Empowering the Voices of Today’s Youth through Words,” we build and enhance stellar self-confidence and self-esteem in families across communities, and the Jr. CEO Academy where youth develop business entreprenurial skills to build a successful business.  If you would like to help Every Child Has a Story provide continued empowerment, training, workshops, and educational support to children, teens and young adults, please consider volunteering or donate.   Your support enables us to continue our mission to enhance and develop the self-esteem, self-confidence and cultivate leadership skills in oral and written communication for children, teens and young adults.   Please click here to complete your donation through our secure and easy online donation process. Subscribe to our newsletter so you can receive updates on our successes and development of new programs. I promise we will not spam you. You can also follow Beverly on TwitterFaceBook and YouTube