Feeling Stuck?


Feeling Stuck?


I’ve noticed something about women who come to see me complaining of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or are so confused they simply can’t focus or move forward. These are not average women. They are much more talented and much more ambitious than most. There is no shame in feeling stuck or overwhelmed in any aspect of your life. In fact, I would venture to say that at some point in all our lives we have felt stuck!

What is it like to “Feel Stuck?”


When you’re stuck it feels like being in a rut. Have you ever wondered what you’re doing with your life? Do questions such as, “Where am I” and “How did I get here?” strike a particular nerve with you? Do you look in the mirror and not recognize the face looking back? If the answer is yes to either of these questions, chances are, you’re stuck! The feeling disables your ability to know what to do. Feeling stuck is like walking the same circular path, asking yourself the same questions over and over again. That creates a trench and it just keeps getting deeper and deeper and harder to get out of that trench.  You feel me?



Now What?


It’s definitely not the end of the world. There’s plenty you can do to eliminate this feeling. Here are a few things to remember for those occasions when you’re feeling stuck. I recommend that you save this list and refer back to it as needed. It can be hard to see your way out when you’re stuck right in the thick of it.

Acknowledge and accept that you are feeling stuck.


It is impossible to fix what you don’t acknowledge. Call it out for what it is and don’t allow yourself to feel any shame because it. Remember, we all have and will feel stuck from time to time. Learning to call it what it is and accepting it is a great starting point!


Feeling stuck is an inside job.


When we feel stuck, our first instinct is to look outside of ourselves for somewhere or someone to blame. The truth is we should be looking internally at how we’re feeling, what we’re thinking, and how we plan to respond. Your life is your responsibility and pointing blame towards something or someone for your feeling stuck is simply a diversion. Now you can’t always change what’s outside of you, but you can certainly change your perception of it. Want to hear something it took me a few years to understand? When you change the way you look at things, the things themselves begin to change.



Being stuck serves a spiritual purpose.


It is a symptom that your life is about to change, or that an internal change is needed. It could be a change of heart or even just a change of perspective. But the point in either case is that what you are doing is no longer working for you. This is your opportunity to grow – a time for looking inside and reflection. So don’t waste it! Just because you don’t think anything is going on in your life, doesn’t mean the Universe is not at work.


Tomorrow isn’t promised.


So what are you waiting for? Often when we are stuck, we’re secretly waiting for something to happen. We do this, instead of embracing the present as it is and acknowledging the change that needs to occur within us. What is keeping you from moving forward? Is it fear and anxiety? Is it insecurities, comfort-zone, laziness? What is your excuse? We all have one or two; whether we know it or not. When we continue to make more excuses then we do steps forward, we fall into that pit called “Stuck”. Wouldn’t you like to know what is keeping you from moving forward? Feeling stuck doesn’t have to be a life sentence. There is still time…let’s not waste it.



Beverly Jones-Durr is known as the “Clarity Coach” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and focus on their purposeful and intentional path. She is the creator of Sistahs Unlimited, a program that teaches women how to develop their authentic selves and create action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Become a VIP today and learn how to live your best life! You can also follow Beverly on Twitter, FaceBook and YouTube.