There has been a lot of content written over a span of years about the inner child. No doubt you’ve heard or read some before, but I let’s touch on the subject further. Everyone has an inner child. The inner child represents life lessons either learned or challenges you’ve endured or been subjected to as a child. Often time those challenges are unresolved and can linger on through our growth into adulthood. Sometimes the inner child resides in a place where dreams are held waiting to be fulfilled. Getting in touch with your inner child shines a bright light into those darkened corners and when done strategically…you just might stumble upon your “Authentic Self.” At any rate…this journey to the village of the inner child is truly a worth – while trip, don’t you think?
Five things to consider as you begin your search
1. What did you love doing as a child? If you don’t remember, ask parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles, anyone who knew you back then. I love photos and have been fortunate to have acquired a collection of family photos dating back nearly a hundred years. Old photos are a great source as well as old movies/videos. Since I have been an avid journal writer for years, my journals read like history and offer a great place to search as well. Dig out those up old diaries or journals. Among the pages you might find those things you loved to do as a child.
2. What are your values? What really matters to you? Make a list and look at each one very carefully. Where did it come from? Who did you inherit them from? Is it still something that you would choose for yourself? If so, rewrite it in a way that makes it your own. If not, try replacing it with something that better suits you today. Values are important…so where do you stand?
3. What’s fun for you now? What would you like to do but avoid because you don’t think you’d be very good at doing? If you aren’t doing it, is it because you’re afraid of what people will say? My singing skills in church as a child were not particularly great, but I didn’t let that stop me. However as an adult, I came to realize singing from the pew was more suitable for me. The point is sometimes you just have to do it!
4. What topics are you drawn to? If you were going to subscribe to a bunch of magazines, which ones would you choose? I have a magazine addiction. No, I don’t mean I buy every magazine I see, but when I purchase or subscribe to magazines I can’t throw them away. I have magazines from 1985. (Stop Laughing) In spite of my addiction, magazines are a great way to gauge your interest in a variety of things. That alone makes them an excellent source.
5. What do you do because you know it will please other people? How would things change if you only had to please yourself? This is a BIG one, because by adulthood you have probably spent countless years of putting your dreams and desires on hold for others… parents, spouses, children, friends, etc. It is possible that your own dreams and desires may be locked in your memory. If this is the case, be patient with yourself and keep looking. Remember that true personal growth has often been compared to peeling an apple. It’s a process. Don’t be discouraged, Keep peeling.
Beverly Jones-Durr is known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus on their purposeful and intentional path. She is the creator of Sistahs Unlimited, a program that teaches women to develop their authentic selves and create a positive and powerful mindset while developing action plans that are both attainable and measureable. Become a VIP today and learn how to live your best life! You can also follow Beverly on Twitter, FaceBook and YouTube.