Getting your power back…
When something has happened to shake your trust or belief in another person (especially someone you love), you may feel anger and resentment for a long period of time. You may even be handing over your power to the other person because you think about the situation constantly and suffer the consequences of his or her actions.
These self-destructive emotions and thoughts can cost you dearly in terms of power for yourself. Power is taking your thoughts and emotions back through the force of forgiveness. That doesn’t mean you let the person off the hook for what he or she did to you – it simply means that you’re giving yourself permission to put it in the past and move on with your life.
You may always remember the hurt…
…or tragedy you suffered through the act of another person, but that doesn’t mean that it has to stalk you forever. When you forgive, you get a type of peace and calm without condoning the act or excusing the person who transgressed against you.
Forgiveness is a choice you make to take action that will take back your power and help you move on rather than letting the hurt control you. When you relive the pain of the transgression on a constant basis, you remain in a state of limbo, where your mind and actions center on the suffering rather than the recovery stage.
Until you use the power of forgiveness…
… to release yourself from the inward and outward signs of fear, guilt, anger and frustration, the negative feelings will cling to your psyche and even begin to make a difference in your physical well-being.
Keep in mind that there’s no timeline for forgiveness. It should happen when and only when you’re ready and not when others say you should move on or it would be better for you if you moved on. Pay attention to your inner thoughts and if you find the negative taking up the most space and time, endeavor to shift your thoughts to happier and more positive ones.
Only when you let go can you retrieve your power and see a transformation.
Here’s something I want you to do. Get a pad and paper or your special journal and go to a quiet place. Think about forgiveness and what it means for you. It may be helpful to write down what you’re thinking and feeling. Don’t leave anything out – and use lots of verbs in your sentences. Putting it down on paper can be a therapeutic action to putting the past in the past and getting your power back. Remember, as processes gor…and this is indeed a process, it will not happen overnight. Work it as often as you can but be consistent. Don’t procrastinate. Getting your power back has to be a prority for you…or it will never work. Want to talk more about forgiveness? Head over to my facebook page and I will meet you there…Click Here
Beverly Jones-Durr is known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path. She is the creator of Sistahs Unlimited, a program that teaches women to develop their authentic selves and create a positive and powerful mindset while developing action plans that are both attainable and measureable. JOIN the Sistahs Unlimited Community today and learn how to live your best life! You can also follow Beverly on Twitter, FaceBook and YouTube